My English
students here are roughly 9 to 18 years old, and some of my classes have ten or
so students in the 9-10 age group.
I
certainly did not plan things that way. First of all, I have never taught
anyone anything at that age. My students in the US have all been mature adults.
Secondly, I must be honest enough to say that I am not a person who is
initially drawn to all children all the time. John is not the guy running up to
kids in public places to engage them or cooing at toddlers in stores. Up to now
I would say that for me, the connection happens or not on a case-by-case basis.
It depends on the child and my mood. Lastly, as I get older I notice an increasing
desire for quiet and perhaps a decreasing amount of patience in my reserves each
year compared to the year before.
To be
fair, when I came to Surabaya, my job description certainly included the
possibility of teaching youngsters. But I thought that given my own age,
background and experience, I would probably be charged with other duties. I was
wrong.
Now
here’s the surprise: I really like the kids, and I am absolutely fine with
teaching them. In the great majority of cases, Indonesian children are polite,
smart, receptive to learning, and ready to engage. Of course they have high
energy. They get excited and bubble over sometimes like all kids do, but they
respect the teachers and will calm down with “settling activities” --- like
drawing--- which we teachers carry in our bag of tricks. The kids are very
often adorable and sweet, and they want to teach you about Indonesia and their
world. Sure, there may be one or two exceptions I can think of, where a kid is
often disruptive (due to over-indulgent parents, perhaps). But truly, these are
very rare instances, and they can be managed.
Last
week I substituted for another teacher who was on holiday. The class was young,
maybe eight students aged10-12. The lesson was about local customs for holidays
and birthdays, and the children could not wait to tell me about theirs. When we
played a team game, they supported their teammates, and showed natural
sportsmanship. At the end of the class, each of the students came up to me on
the way out, said “Thank you, Mr. John,” took my hand and pressed it briefly to
his forehead. I was touched, as you can imagine.
Outside
the classroom, I notice that Indonesian kids from all walks of life are
naturally curious about me as different from what they usually see. If they stare at me I wink at them. And because they are not inhibited adults, they
will often approach me for a brief interaction. These moments are usually lots
of fun.
Last week in a department store I was paying for an item at the
checkout counter when a young man, about 9 or 10 ran up to the counter and said
“Hi, mister.” When this happens I usually bend down so we can be at the same
height. “Hey, buddy. How are you today?” We chatted for a minute, and then his
father came over with his other, younger son. “He wants to practice his English
with you.” I told him his boy had great energy and personality. Turns out he is
an aspiring drummer. I turned to my new friend, told him I played the guitar,
and maybe we could play sometime. The younger boy didn’t want to be left out,
and followed me as I was leaving his father and brother. I stopped again and we
talked a minute also. Then smiles and waves all around. It wasn’t a big deal,
but they were all so pleasant and made me feel like a celebrity. Just a nice
moment.
Obviously
there’s a lesson in all of this. Keeping an open mind and not pre-judging the work
of teaching children gave me the opportunity to discover something new about
myself. It opened up the possibility of enjoying an experience I did not
naturally relish. In a way, it sort of “jump started” or renewed my
relationship with a segment of the population I don’t interact with often. And
it broadened my work world and ESL resume.
All in
all, another small gift from my time in mondo Indo.
As I
finish this post, outside dusk is falling under a soft rain, and the call to prayer
from the local mosque is being chanted over its loudspeakers. Thanks for
visiting here, and please check back soon.